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I will try to answer this, but how to love is shown in various parts of the NT, but I think the best description of what is not love is
1 Cor 13
You will find that love is not a feeling, but an action. For example, Jesus ordered that we love one another.
JOHN 13:34 NKJ 34 "A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another.
If it was a feeling you can't command people to feel a certain way, but you can command that they act a certain way.
So, when we are ordered to love our neighbor, and we know from the story of the Good Samaritan that everyone is our neighbor, and Jesus talked about how we should love our enemies:
Matt 5:44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you
So, love is more encompassing that just feeling or pretending to love by being nice to others.
So, perhaps something along the lines of:
Love everyone, especially those that hate you, where you are willing to die for them, just as Jesus was willing to die for us, but start with loving yourself, as Jesus loved us enough to die for each of us.
What I am trying to show is that Jesus valued us enough to die, so we should reciprocate by loving ourself, as, if we can't love ourselves, then how can we truly love anyone else. The Holy Spirit isn't going to hang out in a place that is filled with hate, and if you hate yourself, then that is not a hospitable home for the Holy Spirit.