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I think your answers lays in the New Testament where Jesus explained how "10 commandments" work in practical use and not just in theory (also today's problem, not just Pharisees in Jesus's time) - Sermon on the Mount.
Matthew 5:27-30 NIV Adultery
27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’
28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Isn't looking at somebody lustfully a desire? For me it is.
Sin happens in our hearts/mind and we are already guilty of it, even if we didnt "act", but we acted in our hearts and our Creator knows our heart.
That is why:
29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.
30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.
That is why sanctification and purification is needed daily so our mind and heart are clean of sinful thoughts.
Hope this can help brother.
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The Tenth Commandment does not forbid desires; it forbids desires for the wrong things.
We can know this by examining the meaning of this Hebrew word.
-From Strong's concordance [H2530], this meaning: "to desire, covet, take pleasure in, delight in" https://www.blueletterbible.org/lang/lexicon/lexicon.cfm?Strongs=H2530&t=KJV
We can also know this by examining other verses that use the same Hebrew word translated "covet" in Exodus 20:17 and Deuteronomy 5:21. [These verses are from the King James Version. The words in bold print are translated from this same Hebrew word.]
Psalm 68:16: “Why leap ye, ye high hills? this is the hill which God desireth to dwell in; yea, the LORD will dwell in it for ever.”
Psalm 19:10: “More to be desired are they than gold, yea, than much fine gold: sweeter also than honey and the honeycomb.”
I believe Scriptures teach that the object of the affection defines whether or not I am coveting in violation of God's law; not the desire itself.