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I assume as you are saying "book a flat" you are booking the whole place to yourself and you don't expect to share the accommodation with your host when you are there. So your problem is, to put it bluntly, getting rid of the host after she has made her introductions.
In my experience (principally in France) most hosts do not really want to talk to you after they have provided a quick tour of the place and an explanation of the building's security quirks. They really just want an idea of who is in their house, and then they want to go back to whatever it is they do. Often I have found the task is delegated to a neighbour rather than the real host, who is even less interested in you.
As another commenter mentioned, this is five minutes. Sometimes I spend longer at hotel reception desks than this.
If you really are anxious to be left alone, one strategy is to mention politely that you have some pressing engagement. Perhaps you are late to meet a friend in town, you want to get to the museum before it closes, you need to be up early, or you have some work to complete before a client meeting.
My feeling is that most hosts are using Airbnb as a business, not a way to make new friends---but this perspective is limited to Western Europe, it might be wrong elsewhere.
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We booked many flats in AirBnb. We didn't meet all of the hosts. Sometimes they just give you a password to unlock the door or a friend will bring you the key (normally not too chatty, because they just want to leave you the key and go). Reading the reviews you can find these people. But it is not easy I must tell.
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From my limited experience, I think you can tell from the descriptions and reviews if it is likely to be that kind of experience. The Asian ones I've used were very definitely treated as businesses and you never saw the host- maybe you see their hired cleaning help.
Where it's a more personal experience (eg. Mexico), I have enjoyed the odd brief interaction and didn't feel it was intrusive. I don't spend a lot of time with online interactions if it's a brief stay- I assume their main concerns are that my story hangs together as to why I'm there (a couple days for a Photonics conference, for example) and that I don't look like the sort of person that will do hard drugs, have a party and trash the place or whatever. A few sentences should both suffice and set the tone.