How Lord Buddha's Way Make Me Out Of This Depression!

A good start would be looking for local Buddhist communities that pertain to a particular tradition. You can also read upon the numerous available literature but would likely end up reading either 1) modernized books on Buddhism often not in agreement with traditional teachings, or 2) classical literature which is hard to understand without a qualified teacher.

Of course, there is always the category of literature which is modern, stays true to tradition and is not hard to digest. Take for example the following article by Ajahn Sumedho, a teacher of the Thai Forest Tradition:

If we contemplate desires and listen to them, we are actually no longer attaching to them; we are just allowing them to be the way they are. Then we come to the realisation that the origin of suffering, desire, can be laid aside and let go of.

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So the way is always working with the moments of daily life. When you are feeling depressed and negative, just the moment that you refuse to indulge in that feeling is an enlightenment experience. When you see that, you need not sink into the sea of depression and despair and wallow in it. You can actually stop by learning not to give things a second thought.

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Another author, Sayadaw U Pandita, belonging to Theravada Buddhism, explains that even yogins experience depression but also says that listening to a good Dhamma talk can help fight such depression.

Many times a yogi may feel depressed and discouraged, having no mindfulness, thinking that his or her practice is going terribly badly. Mindfulness may not be able to pick up objects as it has in the past. At such a time it is essential for a yogi to pull out of this state, brighten the mind. He or she should go in search of encouragement and inspiration. One way to do this is by listening to a good Dhamma talk. A talk can bring about the enlightenment factor of joy or rapture; or it can inspire greater effort, or it can deepen the enlightenment factor of investigation by providing knowledge about practice. These three factors of enlightenment — rapture, effort and investigation — are most helpful in facing depression and discouragement.

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Since I'm not sure how long you've been studying Buddhism, what I'll say might be what you've already known. Basically you've just had first hand experience of the Three characteristics inherent in life: Impermanence, Non-self, and Suffering. The most obvious one is Impermanence. Even if you and that girl were together, there's absolutely nothing that can guarantee that impermanence won't strike again at a later time: one partner might pass away before the other, or there might be constant quarrels and the marriage breaks up, or the personalities are simply incompatible, the list goes on and on. And the interesting bit about impermanence is that your current sorrow is also impermanent! Your pain will fade eventually and life goes on. There might be another girl showing up who has similar or even better attributes than the girl who left. Then the whole cycle of the Three Characteristics repeats itself again and again and you'll be drawn into that happiness/sorrow merry-go-round again and again. You see, the Buddha taught the Dhamma like a scientist showing his empirical data, so that you yourself can directly experience it and see how things work. But that's where His responsibility ends. Once you've seen how things work, it is your responsibility now to decide to stay or leave the merry-go-round.

What you describe is suffering. Intense mental suffering. I am very sorry you are going through this and will try my best to help as I once went through something very similar and it was extremely unpleasant.

The true cause of your suffering is ignorance. In short, you are under the control of a delusion right now and the only way out is through knowledge and understanding of this delusion. You need to try and see the situation clearly with sober eyes.

So what is this delusion? This person you are so attached to and yearning/aching for... this woman of your dreams... she is utterly unreal just like a dream. She exists as nothing more than a figment if your fevered and frenzied imagination. You conjured her up based upon a whole slew of endless cravings and yearnings that you mistakenly believed would lead you to happiness and now you are discovering it only leads to suffering.

So what is the solution? Simple. You have to wake up from this dream of her and realize that she is utterly unreal just like a dream. When you realize she is nothing more than a mirage... the fever will dissipate and the attachment will dissolve.

How do you wake up? Also simple. Meditate on her to see her for what she really is: like an illusion.

Some suggestions:

• Is she a fixed and permanent thing that never changes? Has she changed even slightly over the course of your relationship? Or is she changing moment by moment?

• Is she really as perfect as you make her out to be? Consider all of her faults. Really look at them and don’t turn away.

• Is she really capable of providing you lasting happiness? If that were true, then why are you so miserable right now?

• Is she subject to aging, sickness and death? Is she going to die some day? Is your eventual parting from her an absolute guarantee?

I think if you really look you are going to find she does not exist as you have been imagining her. That imagination of her is just that: pure imagination. See that imagination for what it is and wake up from your day dream of her.

I really hope this helps!

Here is a video of Venerable Thubten Chodron giving a teaching on the above in a much more eloquent and useful way than I can: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1aq1fpjEe0Q Please have a look and see if it helps.