What tools does a Buddhist have to engender others to take a wiser approach?

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I'm sorry to hear about your mother's discomforts. I used to have similar panic attacks that would bring on hyperventilation, taking Xanax and in extreme cases calling the paramedics as well, even though I had studied Buddhism academically for many years and I "knew" it should be able to help me.

It was only when I actually started practicing in stead of studying the attacks subsided, mostly because I had learned to recognize their arising in my mind and the cascade of thoughts, feelings and physical reactions that followed out of them.

The best recommendation I can give you from personal experience is not to start with "staying with the discomfort", as this already requires a person to be able to "witness" the arising and setting of thoughts in the mind. I suggest you start with simple breath counting in a comfortable position and once she is comfortable doing this, ask your mother to observe the space in between thoughts. Doing so will allow these spaces to grow and allow your mom to see the arising of thoughts and sensations, in stead of them being constant and unstoppable, like we usually perceive them. Once you get to that stage, you can start focusing on "staying with" the discomfort, as she will no longer experience it as inevitably leading to the subsequent discomfort in her mind.

Hope this helps, best wishes to you and your mother.

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Metta practice, toward all beings seriously, by heart, in action: The Healing Power of the Precepts. Once even right view and right thinking is established, there is no more falling into low states and the path to final liberation opened.

That's by the way the only way to pay the goodness of ones mother, parents back. Good if giving best try and walk the path in front to know it. Mudita, Nyom Robin.

That might be an answer to the text-part. As for the header, it does not really fit to the rest. So maybe good if dividing and make two questions.

One has actually not really any tool to "change" others as beings are heirs of there own actions at least. Much faith in you might help others to take of what you give (and provide just good). If having learned to read mind (formost your own), it might help to provide at more proper time, but also this has it's limits.

[Note: this is a gift of Dhamma, not thought for trade, stakes, exchanges or other gains subject toward decay and should be deleted if it's not giften to give in Dhammic conditions]

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