How should I respond to people who fake suffering?
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you might be what pali called; "yācayogā ". Took me a very long time to understand this word.
- yācati: beg
- yogga: Suitable, fit for
I dont think there is an English word directly translate "one who deserves to be begged". this word appears in many suttas about gift giving. One with kind heart when asked for gifts or things he does not get angry or get frustrated. Opposite for some people. They get angry when asked to give up something. So naturally, "one who deserves to be begged" attract beggars.
I guess in your example, instead focusing on helping others, bring your attention back and focus on giving to remove greed (ornament of mind). As per sutta,
This is an ornament for the mind, a support for the mind' — on the break-up of the body, after death, he reappears in the company of Brahma's Retinue. Then, having exhausted that action, that power, that status, that sovereignty, he is a non-returner. He does not come back to this world.
....vossaggaratā yācayogā dānasaṃvibhāgaratā..."
my point is, if you are one of those who deserves to be begged, expect to hear from beggars. And when you do, focus your mind on removing greed.
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Even to fake something like that, the person can be very poor. Therefore, instead of just begging they may come up with a story like that. However, if I feel like that the person is using the money for drugs kind of things I may ignore. But if it is for food or education type of a thing, I will give money although the story seems fake.
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Your honesty was not compromised. And don't let your pride grow on you because of these incidents.
Money comes and go. If the money is yours it will eventually come back in any possible way. Be more careful/mindful next time too, of course.
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