Help! I'm in love with enlightened man

There's no "living Buddha". The Buddha existed more than 2500 years ago. Looks like you are overcome by lust/passion. Usually Patikulamanasikara meditation is recommended to such individuals

This is quite normal.Be aware of your feelings and use your commonsense. There is a story where a woman (female monk) had fallen love with Ven Ananda and a beautiful woman was proposed to Buddha. Here is another story.

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Just as they were leaving the city the Venerable Maha Kaccana was standing at the city gate, putting on his outer robe before entering to walk on alms round. When the youth Soreyya beheld the golden-hued body of the elder, he thought to himself: "Oh, that this elder might become my wife! Or may the hue of my wife's body become like the hue of his body!"

At the very moment this thought passed through his mind, Soreyya was instantly transformed from a man into a woman. Startled by this inexplicable change of sex, he jumped out of the carriage and fled before the others could notice what had occurred. Gradually he made his way to the city of Takkasila. His companions searched for him in vain and reported his strange disappearance to his parents. When all attempts to trace him proved futile, his parents concluded that he had died and they had the funeral rites performed.

http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/bodhi/wheel405.html

Try to sit and close your eyes and imagine these: What if he only has 1 eye What if he doesn't have any nose What if he's deaf Cut every part of his body and organs and try to look into it.

And ask to yourself whether if you still like him if he doesn't have any of those beautiful part.

Hopefully this works for you.

This is the daftest question I have ever read. Yes, zen masters occasionally have wives; there were great Korean / Japanese debates about whether this sacrifice of 'celibacy' was a distortion of the meaning of Buddhism. Trust me, an actual Buddha isn't interested in having sex with you, they have other things on their mind -- tantra aside. Are you in love with someone and they not you?

I think that real love is more like unity, like being the same.

Attachment is more like artificial excitement, desire.

In that sense, love and attachment are different things. Love is like calm warm extending, open and limitless. In that, you discover limitless unity with all beings, all universe. That is immersing deeper in true reality.

Attachment is stimulating your feelings, which is like taking stimulants - it will pass, bringing hangover.

Love does not create problems, attachment does. Love makes wiser, attachment makes vexed and blind.

If a person you love is indeed excellent in wisdom and compassion, ask his advice just like you wrote here. It might be not necessary to say that you ask his advice for yourself. Just ask what would he think and advise people in such situations.

Dukha - not getting we want, getting what we don't want, getting what we want then losing it.

The fact is you don't really know this man is enlightened and it doesn't even really matter whether he is or not. Sounds to me more like he exudes confidence and charisma which is always attractive. Confident people attract people like flies to shit.

You have two choices - 1)forget it and get on with your life. 2)try to hook up with him. Number two obviously involves some risk, risk of rejection, risk of falling in love then being heart broken etc but you never know unless you try.

If he is really enlightened, he will not be interested in you (romantically). If he is interested in you (romantically), he is not enlightened. The Pali suttas state:

It is impossible for... whose mental fermentations are ended to engage in sexual intercourse.

Sutava Sutta

However, he could show friendship (metta) towards you. True spiritual friends (kalyanamitta) are difficult to find in the world.