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Shall we look first if Mary really existed? Wikipedia doesn't go into any historical detail at all here. None whatsoever.
Now, if she existed she possibly/probably was 12-13 when she became mother. In those days that was quite normal for girls. But she was not married. According to the lore, she was engaged to Joseph. Being pregnant before marriage, most certainly when the father is not the husband-to-be was not a good idea. Generally speaking, if she wasn't dragged to the edge of town to be stoned, she would be very lucky indeed. The source about Mamzer is a bit vague about it, but if she remained alive she almost certainly would be considered a social outcast.
But Joseph was a loving man, etc. apologists will claim. Joseph was a man of his time. He had his reputation to worry about. Marrying a pregnant fiancΓ©e by someone else would make him the laughing stock not of the village, but of the district. He would be known as Joseph with the horns for the rest of his life. He must have been deeply in love to carry that stygma.
Being a bastard became only socially acceptable after WW2. Before WW2 it was a shame you did well to hide. Especially for the mother. (I'm not disrespectful to your religion, but that is the technical term for someone born out of wedlock.)
I conclude that Mary probably didn't exist, just as Jesus (being the son of a god) never existed. I'm not a theologian, but assume existing mother goddesses form the basis of Mary, the mother of Jesus. There are plenty of immaculate birth legends.
Based on the above, no doubt there is a church dedicated the virgin Mary in Ephesus. But that doesn't proof anything. Not even that Mary lived there. Only that people worshiped her.