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It may be more accurate to say God dispenses the same graces to you regardless of how you worship Him (that is, God imparts the same graces at every valid mass, even if these are not the same graces as the graces at confession, and imparts the same graces at every valid confession, even if these are not the same graces as the graces at the mass), whereas, you may actually be receptive to more or less of that grace depending on your disposition at the moment (reverent reception of the eucharist might cause you to receive more graces than a simple act of spiritual communion, prayer after communion may make you even more receptive than simple reverent reception, even if God is imparting the same graces in all of these cases). To be sure, one receives more graces through the valid celebration of the Sacraments than through any other acts, and when it comes to sanctifying grace, the Sacraments are all but necessary. The requirements to have perfect contrition and/or a baptism of desire are actually quite burdensome. It is incredibly difficult for one to have perfect contrition, and one who has a baptism of desire will get validly baptized as soon as they can. The one who makes a good confession and amends is life is like the one who is told "well done my good and faithful servant," whereas the one who manages to make a perfect act of contrition just before death is like the man whose works were all burned up. "[H]e himself will be saved, yet so as through fire."