What can be done about wanting to change things in the present that you can't?
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One simple, effective, answer would be to ask why you think this way. Are you e.g. using it as an excuse?
Trying to find out why you want to change something may be one everyday way in which you can then learn to do otherwise.
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Your idea of not being able to change things in the present is not quite correct.
You can always change yourself in the present moment. Always.
It may be difficult, or seem impossible, but the entire practice of Buddhism and Meditation is about this one, simple thing.
My answer to your question is "Change Yourself". This is not to say you should either accept OR reject any condition your are currently experiencing.. this is to say change and then see how that affects your view of your experience.
Rinse, repeat. This is The Path.
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There is only now, the present moment. There are thoughts about the past, fantasies about the future that are arising in the present moment.
What must be done is to become aware when such a thought do arise, and to observe that thought, objectively. Without investigation or analysis, without reacting, by simply turning, holding and sustaining your attention to what has just appeared, just at time of its duration.
You will realize that when you do this, the thought will simply disappear, it will vanish.
Ultimately it is only a thought, nothing more. The problem is that we create more out of it. The desire to control what is out there will only lead to your own misery. Let it go, give it up.
Have you ever heard about satipatthana / vipassana ?
This should help you, friend. http://en.dhammadana.org/vipassana/what_is_it.htm
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