Biblical basis for non-practice of Kiss of Peace

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I have actually seen some Protestant churches like Assembly of God practicing this Holy Kiss but not very often. It depends on the pastor of the church. There is no rule for practicing Holy Kiss in many Protestant churches whether it should be practiced or not. Some encourage it, some ignore it. An example of encouraging Greeting of any form in Assembly of God.

Greeting is often regulated by cultural acceptance and practices. Today, we embrace/hug, shake hands, pat backs or give high fives. There are not too many practices, even a kiss on the forehead or cheek, that are frowned upon as long as they reflect a genuine and godly spirit. Don’t miss out on opportunities to express your appreciation, thankfulness and love for others. (source)

Greeting each other by kissing is a Jewish custom. They kiss the cheek or mostly on forehead, depends on your relationship with the person but never on the mouth and not between opposite sex. (More information on Jewish Greeting)

In the New Testament also, we see an example of Jewish greeting by kissing, the famous kiss of betrayal called Kiss of Judas.

While he was still speaking a crowd came up, and the man who was called Judas, one of the Twelve, was leading them. He approached Jesus to kiss him, but Jesus asked him, “Judas, are you betraying the Son of Man with a kiss?” (Luke 22:47-48, NIV)

Holy Kiss was indeed encouraged by the Apostles, who happened to be Jews, but it is not clear whether this Jewish custom should be continued by Christians or not. The most important message the Apostles left us is that Christians should love each other and greet whenever we meet.

Whether or not the holy kiss should be a tradition we carry on today is not clear in Scripture. Whether or not our salutations to our brothers and sisters in Christ include the holy kiss, the important thing is that our greetings spring from real love and friendship, be characterized by sincerity, and represent true Christian fellowship. (source)

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Its an obvious metaphor for simply greeting each other. There's no literal kiss commanded. Its just like:

Psalm 85:10 Mercy and truth are met together; righteousness and peace have kissed each other.

Not to mention, if it were literal, we wouldn't know what it was. Was it blowing a kiss? a kiss on the forhead? on the cheek? on the mouth? or was it a hand-sign (the peace sign) as I believe it is in some traditions? If there was any literal practice, it was purely cultural, and certainly is not binding on us today.

From an article called 10 Things I Wish I’d Known Before Entering an Orthodox Church:

Kissing in the Church. Alright, I know what you’re thinking. The Orthodox church is supposed to be super strict…how then can we allow kissing at church? The reality is we kiss stuff. It’s an expression of love- sincere affection. We kiss icons, the relics of saints, and a priest’s hand when greeting him. We even kiss each other shortly after the sermon during the liturgical service. You’ll hear the deacon say “Greet one another with a holy kiss…” (1 Peter 5:14). It’s not a secret handshake that only Coptic people know, don’t worry; just follow the lead of those around you: both palms touching with thumbs crossed over each other, touch the hands of your neighbor and then kiss your own hand. Repeat.

If its really a handshake, then clearly the "kiss" part is a metaphor.

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The instruction to greet one another with a holy kiss should correspond to something in our practice as Christians. In some cultures, greeting with a kiss is very uncomfortable (and yes, maybe we should just get over it). The real point of the instruction is that there should always be an intimate, joyful greeting between two believers.

If, for example, we are bitter toward an individual, an intimate greeting would be difficult to muster up when we saw that person. We often choose to simply pass that person by when we see him or her. This instruction is meant to create a sense of what ought to be if we love each other. Therefore, if we are in the habit of greeting one another intimately (maybe a hug instead of a kiss) the absence of that greeting will reveal the bitterness and division that is beginning in our hearts.

In this way, it is true that the greeting may not have to be a kiss, but the greeting does need to be intimate. Therefore, to apply this teaching, Christians must think of the person they hold most dear and how they greet that person when everything is going well. For myself, I hug my close friends and I kiss some in my family. I employ hugs within my church circles, because of the discomfort many have with the kiss. There are many that are uncomfortable with even hugs, so in my tone of voice and the happiness of my eyes and the smile on my face I attempt to communicate the same joy and freedom from bitterness. How I wish I were strong enough to be faithful in this always!

One last note, we can kiss everyone out of tradition, yet horribly fail at obeying this instruction. While kissing an individual out of habit we can at the same time entertain bitter thoughts toward that person. The greeting should be uncomfortable if there is bitterness, but simply feeling uncomfortable is not enough. We must seek reconciliation so that the greeting remains genuine.

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