"true love", compassion and suffering
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I'd like to focus on "compassion" here. Don't people who are more compassionate suffer more because they experience the suffering of other people in some sense? So aren't the elements 2 and 3 as mentioned above contrary to each other?
That's why when studying the Brahmavihara/the Four Sublime Attitudes, one should be careful not to confuse these sublime states with what's called their "near and far enemies". Afterall the practice is really a selfless practice. If one's clinging to the self is not there, if there's no "I", "mine", or "myself", there's no anchor for suffering to take shape.
- Loving kindness(metta): wish for welfare/happiness of others; near enemy: attachment; far enemy: ill will;
- Compassion(karuna): empathy with others suffering; near enemy: worldly grief; far enemy: cruelty(vihesa);
- Altruistic joy(mudita): joy from seeing others' success/good fortune; near enemy: worldly joy; far enemy: aversion, discontent(arati);
- Equanimity(upekkha): impartiality towards others; near enemy: dull indifference of apathy; far enemy: attachment and aversion(patigha); For a fuller treatment, see Vism IX page 312-313;
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Being compassionate towards another means to see the roots of their suffering — the cravings and discontentments that drive it — not to embrace it or enter into it. When we do not see the roots of other people's suffering, we become involved in their suffering: we grow attached, which can lead us to be angry, resentful, pitying, snobbish, distant, cruel... That does nothing except compound the suffering of others, and lead us to suffer ourselves.
When we do see the roots of their suffering we can relate to them: we too have suffered under misperception. Then we are filled with kindness and tenderness. Our kindness and tenderness does more to ease their suffering than any action we could take.
Compassion is not about entering into their a person's suffering to fix what's wrong. Compassion is about seeing the person who suffers in their true (non-suffering) light, so that they can find themselves in our eyes.
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Don't people who are more compassionate suffer more because they experience the suffering of other people?
The above appears to be the Western/Christian meaning of compassion, namely, "to suffer with".
In Buddhism, the term "karuṇā" (often translated as "compassion") is the wish to ending suffering. It does not mean "to suffer with".
karuṇā - “ahita-dukkh-âpanaya-kāmatā,” the desire of removing bane and sorrow (from one’s fellowmen)
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