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The Pali suttas teach to stay with the breath (MN 118). However, it is not necessary to look directly at the breath. Observing the empty mind uses the mind as the meditation object yet awareness of breathing will still occur.
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Noticing, observing and watching are greatly facilitated by an alert mind. If eyes fall then notice this as bodily phenomena. When you notice the falling of the eyes, what thoughts accompany that action? Watch carefully. You may find that mind is making something out of nothing or that itβs wanting something. An alert mind is sufficient; remaining alert for the duration of the session is quite another thing. Moreover, eyes will move. Let them so.
Q1: What are the best ways, or the best way, to determine proper meditation objects?
There is your attention... and there is your meditation object. If anything comes between the two then attention has been removed from the object. This might include thoughts about bodily phenomena. In fact, thoughts are the number one culprit for derailing ones attention from the object. You can observe bodily phenomena without thought.
Q2 : Is there any real drawbacks of meditation with a physical object or mental image as compared to the breath?
This is personal preference which can be understood further by experimentation.
As further reading Iβd strongly suggest that you familiarise yourself with the five hindrances.
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Traditionally, meditation object is picked to be an antidote for the biggest remaining emotional problem.
For example:
And so on - I think it's easy enough to see the pattern.
I don't think your problem is lack of concentration. All modern people who can read and have finished the high school have enough concentration to be able to skip the kasina stage (meditation on physical objects) and get straight to meditation on mental objects. If I can venture to guess, it sounds like your meditation is too contrived. You are trying to do something synthetic, with no connection to your actual situation. Instead try to look directly at your real-life problems, stay with them enough to face and admit the facts, then try to come up with an antidote for the emotional disbalance.