Lack of Pleasure and Joy

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You are stiffled. You think that you are not allowed to enjoy life, enjoy women and pleasure in life because of clinging and craving and dukka and death and the danger in sensual pleasures.

But you are not a monk. You don't meditate as much as a monk would do, who would enter jhana and be content with robe, bowl, medicine.

You don't have to stop following the red thread, enthuziasm, that will make your life worth living and enjoyable.

Do the things that make you enthuziast. If you don't know them find them. Let yourself express the life in you. Take dance classes. I do and it helps.

Get involved in social circles. Expand them and meet new people constantly. It is the joy of life.

You can have a break with meditation until you will be enthuziastic at the thought of sitting. I do so and it helps my meditation.

Don't rush things, be patient. Be outcome independent, don't do things having expectations, do them because you enjoy being yourself doing them. Results are bound to come.

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The proper themes of meditation for beginning and to provide joy: What should one meditate upon as a beginner?

To have joy in something, it requires devotional practice: Respect, Confidence and Patient

And yes, without joy no headaway, going forth.

One needs a "star" or to see good attributs of real stars in one self.

[Note: This is a gift of Dhamma and not meant for commercial purpose or other gains in the world]

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Sounds like you are looking for positive emotions from entertainment (e.g. music). That is one way to get positive emotions... not necessarily invalid but rather superficial and not lasting.

Another way to get joy is through setting challenging goals and achieving them. When you can overcome your weakness / limits, you will feel rewarded, and worthy of self-respect.

In Buddhism the challenging goal we set is Right Bodily Behavior, Right Verbal Behavior and Right Mental Behavior. When we overcome our bad habits and achieve certain level of perfection, we can truly congratulate ourselves and that gives the special type of joy. (And then the joy of Completion, which is the highest.)

But even on mundane level, you can set challenging goals, like sport, raise yourself to challenge despite pain and weakness - and then congratulate yourself. Try it, it really does work ;)

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