Can Metta make you likable?
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You already know it.
Depressive mind has power to transform whole world to depressive world. Angry mind has power to transform whole word to angry world. Metta mind has power to transform whole world to metta world.
When dwelling in depression, everything is depressive. When boiling in anger, everything is angry. When radiating metta, everything is shining metta.
This world will reflect back what ever you offer to it. If you have this I like you and I want to help you -mind towards this world, this world will reflect it back to you as I like you and I want to help you -world.
Why don't you try out?
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Yes Metta is a very very important factor in the art of communication, throughout all the stages of the communication process.
Being natural (effortless) and honest is another core trait (Right Speech) as well as having a high level of generosity (dana paramita)
There are many others social skill factors, some of which are based on advanced NLP skills (which is a way to communicate to people using the specific way that they think--thus others cannot help but pay full attention to what they are saying).
You will not understand all these things in one day. It will take you the rest of your life to understand the many facets of social relationships especially the fact that people will not like you if you want them to like you.
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From the Mettanisamsa Sutta:
"Monks, eleven advantages are to be expected from the release (deliverance) of heart by familiarizing oneself with thoughts of loving-kindness (metta), by the cultivation of loving-kindness, by constantly increasing these thoughts, by regarding loving-kindness as a vehicle (of expression), and also as something to be treasured, by living in conformity with these thoughts, by putting these ideas into practice, and by establishing them. What are the eleven?
- "He sleeps in comfort.
- He awakes in comfort.
- He sees no evil dreams.
- He is dear to human beings.
- He is dear to non-human beings.
- Devas (gods) protect him.
- Fire, poison, and sword cannot touch him.
- His mind can concentrate quickly.
- His countenance is serene.
- He dies without being confused in mind.
- If he fails to attain arahantship (the highest sanctity) here and now, he will be reborn in the brahma-world.
Read this essay to get some exposition and experience on Metta. Particularly this experience:
Once I had a meditation student who had been a child in Nazi-occupied Europe. She recounted an instance when she was around ten years old when a German soldier held a gun to her chest -- a situation that would readily arouse terror. Yet she related feeling no fear at all, thinking, "You may be able to kill my body, but you can't kill me." What a spacious reaction! It is in this way that lovingkindness opens the vastness of mind in us, which is ultimately our greatest protection.
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